{"id":2088,"date":"2018-09-28T09:00:28","date_gmt":"2018-09-28T13:00:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.syracusewomanmag.com\/?p=2088"},"modified":"2018-10-02T14:11:04","modified_gmt":"2018-10-02T18:11:04","slug":"hope-for-bereaved","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.syracusewomanmag.com\/?p=2088","title":{"rendered":"HOPE for Bereaved"},"content":{"rendered":"

A Conversation with the Founder<\/em><\/h1>\n

After Therese Schoeneck\u2019s daughter passed away in 1977, she discovered there were no support groups in the area to help parents dealing with the death of a child. So, the following year, she founded HOPE for Bereaved. This month, we talked with Therese about the organization\u2019s evolution during the last 40 years, how it\u2019s helped her and how people can get involved.<\/em><\/p>\n

SWM: Tell us about those first few months of HOPE for Bereaved and how they helped you.<\/h4>\n

Therese: Our 21-year-old daughter, Mary, died August 21, 1977. I did not think we would survive or ever be happy again. If there had been a support group anywhere in the state, I would have attended. There was none. Realizing from our own experience how difficult the holidays were, the following year we decided to hold a meeting for bereaved parents on coping with the holidays. The parents asked if we could meet again. I held the first meeting in order to help other bereaved parents. I never realized how much it would help me.<\/p>\n

Since I was one of the coordinators, I had to be prepared to speak on a different topic each month. In order to do this, I had to face my own feelings about anger, depression, expectations, etc. I also read a lot to gain more understanding. In talking and listening to other parents, I learned that so many of my feelings were normal.<\/p>\n

It is really true that in helping others, we help ourselves. It is possible to survive grief and eventually even grow from it. I have come to\u00a0treasure my memories of Mary and have become determined to build more memories with my family and friends.<\/p>\n

SWM: HOPE for Bereaved celebrates its 40th anniversary this year. How has the organization grown in these last 40 years?<\/h4>\n

Therese: I never envisioned all the various support groups that would be formed or the many services we would be able to offer. HOPE has grown from one monthly support group to 12 groups. Attendance has grown from 25 to 250 people each month. In the beginning, we sent 35 newsletters; now 1,200 newsletters are mailed\/emailed monthly. Staff has grown from three to 11, seven of whom provide counseling. In 1991, HOPE\u2019s Center was purchased.<\/p>\n

SWM: What services does HOPE for Bereaved currently offer?<\/h4>\n

Therese: HOPE provides 12 support groups for anyone experiencing the death of a child, spouse, parent, sibling, infant, partner, relative, friend or coworker by accident, illness, drug overdose, homicide and suicide. The organization also offers two support groups in the Fulton\/ Oswego area. Our core services, counseling, monthly newsletter and 14 support groups are free of charge. After seven years of research, our Grief Resource Kit: K-12 is available. A Conversation with the Founder<\/p>\n

SWM: The Celebration of Hope Dinner is slated for Friday, Nov. 2, at the Nicholas J. Pirro OnCenter Ballroom. What can people expect from this year’s event?<\/h4>\n

Therese: The Celebration of HOPE is a fun-filled evening with our silent and live auctions, raffles, photo booth and surprise entertainment. This year\u2019s celebration is in loving memory of Mary Schoeneck and honoring Wegmans. Community co-chairs are Jeffrey and Dorothy Booher. Emcee\/auctioneer is Dan Cummings. As we celebrate HOPE\u2019s 40th year of service, the committee is hard at work planning a special event, themed \u201cHOPE is a Jewel.\u201d<\/p>\n

SWM: How can people get involved with the organization?<\/h4>\n

Therese: To get involved with our events or volunteer, call Pat at 315- 475-4673. We have more than 30 co-facilitators who volunteer their time each month at our 12 support groups. We are blessed to have more than 400 volunteers who help in so many ways throughout the year. So many of our volunteers are \u201cpaying it forward\u201d as their way of giving back for the help they have received. SWM <\/em><\/p>\n

For more information, visit hopeforbereaved.com. <\/em><\/p>\n

Interview was edited for length and clarity.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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